“ It’s All About Love”
Love …. what is it?
by Dr. Sharon R. Bonds
One of the most difficult questions that I have tackled with in this life time is to
simply explain “what Love is!” Love is inherently free and it cannot be brought, sold,
traded or appointed. Nor can it be commanded, demanded or disappear. In my
opinion love consist of energies that are apart of the force of nature that’s larger than
life. You can set the stage to invite love, but you have no control on when, if or how
it will arrive to express itself. You can choose to surrender to love or not, but in the
end love strikes like lightening, unpredictable and irrefutable. Love arrives in your life
without conditions, stipulations, addendum, memorandums or contracts. In fact love
is unconditional and as result you will find yourself loving people you don’t like at all
or the individual you love doesn’t love you, but then you find yourself staying with
that person anyway. Love has no guarantees that the person you love will reciprocate.
So with that being the case, you must approach love from a technical standpoint.
Began to change your perception of what love is and is not. The universe only
recognizes acts of kindness and unconditional love. In fact I can venture to say that
all spiritual lessons of growth and development are contingent upon the application
on unconditional love. Knowing that love is not just a sensation of the emotions, the
intense desire to own or posses another in order to feel a sense of wholeness or in
some cases, the thrill of the conquest and obtaining what seems to be “a great prize”
at the time, which most often becomes a great burden instead. So in short love
means “JUSTICE” and “LOVE is everything! If a person is not treating you just, they
don’t love you nor do they love there self! You have to love yourself before you can
love anyone else….if you can’t love you, you can’t love!. Love cares what becomes of
you because love knows that we are all connected. Love is compassionate and
empathic. Love speaks out for justice and protects when harm is being done. Love
displays and points out the consequences of hurting oneself or others while love
allows room for anger, grief, loss or pain to be expressed and released. But love does
not threaten to withhold itself if it doesn’t get what it wants. Love is not self-sacrifice
and victimhood, where you give away so much of yourself that you no longer have an
identity of your own. It has been said, you are to love others as you love yourself.
Well let me tell you this, that so many people have such low self esteem and
disdain of self, if you use this premise, you have littele to project toward others.
You must first build the essence of love within you, in your soul center, and you
begin by accepting that you are a divine spark and worthy of love, respect and all the
joy, beauty and bounty of creation. Now it is time you begin a love affair with yourself,
where you begin to focus on what i s right about you instead of what is wrong. Begin to
listen to listen to the whispering intuitive voice of your soul self (which will grow louder
as you acknowledge its wisdom) as it gives you encouragement, insight and awareness of
your vast potential. Love is not enabling those around you to dishonor you and abuse you
as they reinforce your own projections of unworthiness. How can you expect anyone else to
treat you with respect and love if you are not willing to set boundaries
a nd send clear messages of love, acceptance and worthiness for yourself and for others,
as well! The limiting, crippling thought forms of self-sacrifice, martyrdom, suffering and the
denial of the beauty and perfection of your physical vehicle must end. Allow all these
destructive thought patterns to be dissolved from your consciousness. Let thoughts
of gratitude and thanks resonate in you life. Love yourself and others
unconditionally while sitting back and watching your life excel in greatness! It’s All
About Love!!!
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